Building a New Life After A Breakup

 

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.,

author Getting Past Your Breakup:  How To Turn a Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You (Hachette Book Group 2009) and Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating After the Big Breakup (Hachette Book Group 2015)

There is more to us than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives we will be unwilling to settle for less. ~ Kurt Hahn 

I run these two posts every few months because it is SO important to build a new life after a breakup. Don’t sit around and wait for life to come to you. It’s NOT going to happen. 

Way back when, I wrote this post and followed it with the second post. For those afraid to get out and build your life, I hope this is some kind of inspiration.

Post 1:

When we discover who we are and all the riches we contain (or as Walt Whitman said, the multiples we contain) we understand the depth of our goodness and we refuse to settle for less than we deserve.

The way OUT of garbage and INTO goodness is to recognize our own self-worth, to affirm that we are good and deserve good things and to treat ourselves with dignity and respect. (more…)

Mean Lady Talking Podcast Episode Number 22 Show Notes

Welcome to the

Mean Lady Talking Podcast

This episode is MORE

Talking About Dating and Self-Revelations, Standards and Fooling Ourselves

This is the podcast that tackles tough questions about

relationships, life, love and loss.

The Mean Lady Podcast is hosted by grief therapist, motivational speaker, best-selling author and attorney, Susan J. Elliott

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Show Notes for Episode Number 22

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Breaking Up and Deciding to Make “The Turn”

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.©

Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power. ~ Blaine Lee

Each of us has the power to decide whether or not a hurt, a loss, a change in circumstance is going to keep us down.

Each of us has the power to say, “NO MORE” to someone who is hurting us. Each of us has the power to walk away and look at our inner selves instead of trying to get whatever it is we are trying to get from the outside. It comes down to CHOICE.

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Valentine’s Day


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Valentine’s Day is the epitome of our romantic love fantasy. It represents all that we wish love could be and would be 365 days a year. Valentine’s Day feeds into our notion of romance….every romantic comedy, every heartfelt love song, every “We’ll always have Paris.”

by Susan J. Elliott J.D., M.Ed. Copyright ©  2005-2019

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